We’ve been married for over a decade now. Sometimes, I think to myself how can she be so loving despite knowing and seeing the worst of me. She loves even when I am unlovable. I guess when people go around saying “love is a choice,” it really rings true to this marriage. The day we held our hands in marriage, we chose love and each other. Commitment-based, instead of feeling-based.
I am not an expert nor can I say I know it all, but I’ve been through a couple of years now to be able to share my experiences and thoughts to young couples. Some look for life companions that could enliven their hearts through all the jitters and butterflies. But as time goes on, our hearts can easily get insensitive over all things romantic. When that moment comes, what is the next step? I guess that’s where practicing your will to not follow your emotions and instead follow your promise to each other, comes in handy.
My wife and I, we are direct opposites of each other. She’s the smart, preserved one. I am the typical trouble maker at school. We are not high school sweethearts although we kind of know each other since junior high. I just knew her from afar. I just thought to myself that she’s beautiful and that she’s my type. Way back then, I was so into girls with glasses. And she’s one of them. Long story short, we met again in Sydney during her birthday. Since then, I’ve convinced myself to not let her be one that got away.